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Digital Seminar

Healing from Affairs: Moving Past the Trauma of Betrayal and Infidelity


Speaker:
Tammy Nelson, PhD
Duration:
6 Hours 17 Minutes
Language:
Presented in EN, subtitles in EN and FR, handouts in EN
Format:
Audio and Video
Copyright:
Apr 19, 2023
Product Code:
NOS059220
Media Type:
Digital Seminar


Description

In this cutting-edge training, we will discuss the varieties of affairs and the many ways that relationships can heal from the betrayal that affects intimacy. We will review the stages of recovery that lead to long-term healing. Issues around trust, forgiveness, new visions of monogamy, sexuality and connection for the future of the couple’s relationship will be addressed. The recording will include videos and case examples to illustrate how breaches of monogamy can affect potential ongoing connection.

We will look at integrity, narcissism, second adolescence, parallel love relationships, online affairs, pornography, sex addiction and emotional infidelity and their effect on sexuality, intimacy and emotional connection and how therapists can help restart communication. We will review three phases of treatment and the steps of the recovery process.

It is crucial to understand the triangulation that can occur when therapists do not explore their own bias and countertransference and we will look at how to avoid unintentional shaming and client retaliation. We will look at the power of the third in the relationship, including the therapeutic as well as the romantic. This recording will delve into the meaning of each type of affair and participants will learn interventions to help repair, restructure and redefine the future and help clients create a new monogamy for a stronger more insightful and connected partnership.

This recording will move beyond a victim, perpetrator and rescuer model of therapy and will create sustainable monogamy agreements where transparency and authenticity promote resiliency.

Credit

Program Information

Planning Committee Disclosure - No relevant relationships

All members of the PESI, Inc. planning committee have provided disclosures of financial relationships with ineligible organizations and any relevant non-financial relationships prior to planning content for this activity. None of the committee members had relevant financial relationships with ineligible companies or other potentially biasing relationships to disclose to learners.  For speaker disclosures, please see the faculty biography.



Canada Credit - *

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Earn up to 6.25 CE hours. Please see below, for more details, as credit amounts vary by jurisdiction and profession. 


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PESI, Inc. is approved by the Canadian Counselling and Psychotherapy Association to offer continuing education for counsellors and psychotherapists. PESI, Inc. maintains responsibility for the program. This self-study activity is approved for 6.0 credit hours.


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Course Level: Intermediate Format: Recorded asynchronous distance. Full attendance is required; no partial credits will be offered for partial attendance.

 

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This self-study course has been approved by PESI, Inc., as a NAADAC Approved Education Provider, for educational credits. NAADAC Provider #77553. PESI, Inc. is responsible for all aspects of their programming.

This self-study course offers 6.0 continuing education contact hours in the Counseling Services skill group. Full attendance is required; no partial credit will be awarded for partial attendance.



Handouts

Speaker

Tammy Nelson, PhD's Profile

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Tammy Nelson, PhD, is an internationally acclaimed psychotherapist, Board Certified Sexologist, Certified Sex Therapist and Certified Imago Relationship Therapist. She has been a therapist for 35 years and is the executive director of the Integrative Sex Therapy Institute. On her podcast The Trouble with Sex, she talks with experts about hot topics and answers her listeners’ most forbidden questions about relationships. Dr. Tammy is a TEDx speaker, Psychotherapy Networker Symposium speaker and the author of several bestselling books, including Open Monogamy, Getting the Sex You Want, The New Monogamy, When You’re the One Who Cheats, and Integrative Sex and Couples Therapy.

 

Speaker Disclosures:
Financial: Dr. Tammy Nelson maintains a private practice and is executive director and primary faculty at Integrated Sex Therapy Training Institute (ISTI) and has employment relationships with Daybreak University and the California Institute of Integral Studies. She receives a speaking honorarium and recording, and book royalties from PESI, Inc., and she additionally receives royalties from New Harbinger and Sounds True. She is a paid consultant for Evergreen Certifications. Dr. Nelson has no relevant financial relationships with ineligible organizations.
Non-financial: Dr. Tammy Nelson serves on the board of advisors for the World Association of Sex Coaches. She is a member of the American Art Therapy Association, American Association of Sex Educators, Sex Counselors, and Sex Therapists (AASECT), American Comprehensive Energy Psychology Association (ACEP), American Counseling Association, American Family Therapy Academy, American Family Therapy Association (AFTA), American Psychological Association (APA), Connecticut Counselors, Imago Relationships International Association of Professional and Certified Therapists, International Board of Sexologists, International Institute for Sexuality and Human Development, Nonfiction Authors Association, Society Scientific Study Sexuality (SSSS), and the Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR).

 


Additional Info

Program Information

Access for Self-Study (Non-Interactive)

Access never expires for this product.

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Target Audience

  • Addiction Counselors
  • Counselors
  • Marriage and Family Therapists
  • Nurses
  • Physicians
  • Psychologists
  • Social Workers

Objectives

  1. Catalog infidelity using the three-part definition and how partners are affected in a marriage or committed partnership.
  2. Determine the betrayal trauma effects on relationships and how collusion and bias play a part in the secondary gain of the role of the third in infidelity.
  3. Analyze why the current therapy isn’t working and why some systems of recovery from affairs can retraumatize clients.
  4. Distinguish the three phases of treatment after an affair and determine how they can improve treatment outcomes.
  5. Distinguish the difference between implicit and explicit monogamy and create new monogamy agreements.
  6. Construct a revised formula for treatment plans after infidelity breaches, to include long term sustainable monogamy.

Outline

Affair recovery in Integrative Relationship Therapy
  • Why do people cheat?
  • The types of Affairs that present in treatment
  • What is Infidelity?
  • Three Parts of an affair
  • Countertransference
  • Role of the third in treatment
  • Avoiding re-traumatization in therapy
  • What is betrayal trauma
  • What is collusion and bias and secondary gain
  • Individual integrative therapy
Three stages of Affair recovery treatment
  • Crisis/realization
  • Insight/reevaluate
  • Vision/renegotiate
  • What is erotic recovery
  • Pleasure heals trauma
  • Treating the cheating partner
  • Video: case
  • Erotic shutdown
  • What is second adolescence?
  • Coping with reactivity
  • Lean in lean out – the dilemma of ending an affair
Creating long term sustainable relationship agreements
  • Trust, safety and the trap of forgiveness
  • Implicit vs explicit monogamy
  • Decrease rumination/blame/projection
  • Micro and Macro behaviors in treatment
  • Video: case
Handing Dishonesty

Vulnerable cycle

Long Term Monogamy Plan

Future Treatment Recommendations
 

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